Fri, 13 Jan 2012 11:15:15 -0800WeeblyThu, 10 Dec 2009 20:25:33 -0800http://www.richardseamanonline.com/1/post/2009/12/standing-in-your-greatness-without-offending-others-the-blog.htmlIs this possible?

"Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate, but that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, which frightens us. We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, handsome, talented, and fabulous?" Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us. It is not just in some; it is in everyone. And, as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others." - Mandela/Williamson/Dubois

I have shared many times in classes I have taught that the book, Return to Love, By Marianne Williamson was the book that return me back to my greatness and started me on the path of self-love, standing in my power and not dimming my light to make others comfortable. When I was a young adolescent boy growing up in small suburb of Spokane, Wa I always seemed to dim my light to make other people comfortable. As I got older I realized that playing small was not serving the world. I had a power brewing within me that could move mountains if I could just believe in myself.

Believe it or not, I was a wallflower in most social settings; I had self-esteem lower than hell itself and walked through my life scared unable to speak my truth and I would always roll over for others to avoid conflict. I know this is not how most of you see me now, but it was my truth at one time in my life. I knew without a shadow of a doubt I had greatness within me and the quote above released the chains that bound me to this earth. I was more afraid of my greatness and my light. I did ask myself who I am to be brilliant, gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous? Where I came from I heard things like, "Don't get to big for your britches", "Why do you always have something to say?” "You really think your cool, don't ya?"

So as you sit here and read this your might be asking yourself, "Why, is he sharing this part of him?" In fact, I feel vulnerable as I write this because it is exposure of myself. I believe though it is all about the sharing, and when we share ourselves truly it helps others open up the wounds to the fresh air to be drained of the uck and muck and then purified to it's original state of perfectness.

I have had the pleasure of living in the bowels of hell and paradise within this lifetime. I could not have said it was a pleasure when I was there; but now that I have climbed my way out of the trench I now see the blessing in what I have experienced within this lifetime. I have rose above it and seen the truth, which to me is this:

"There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us. It is not just in some; it is in everyone. And, as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others." This is my backbone to everything I do, how I be, how I teach, how I speak, how I write and how I "be" in this world. However, as I am this in the world it has made others uncomfortable and made me question my backbone of truth. I have found myself wanting to give up, dim my light, stop the race, stop writing, stop teaching and stop showing up in the world as someone who knows he is brilliant, gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous.

However, I do know this is just an Illusion and I have to find my goodness within my heart and soul for others who may not know the truth that they also can live a life of greatness if they just were to reach out and find a new way of being and walk into their greatness.

Every time someone shoots me in the foot and wounds me I deal with the pain, which only lasts for a short period of time and then I bear down and birth a little more greatness to the world. Throughout the years of being shot down I have found a mantra, which assists me in finding my air again.

It is this: “Even in this… God is”

Any thoughts? I am listening.

In Divine Timing –

Richard Seaman]]>Sat, 21 Nov 2009 08:50:01 -0800http://www.richardseamanonline.com/1/post/2009/11/uncharted-territory-the-blog.htmlFeeling lost?

Did you know that when you feel lost that maybe you are really right where you are supposed to be? Being guided and filtered to the next person, place or experience you need to move forward on your own personal life's journey? Is there ever a wrong turn? I remember when I was a flight attendant for Northwest Airlines I used to wander on layovers in cities I had never been before, nine times out of ten I would always find some new cool restaurant, park or have some outrageous experience I would have never had if I would have stayed on the path most frequented by the masses. I have learned to listen to my inner navigational system (GPS) and wander like a leave in the wind with no expectations or attachments to the outcome. When I felt lost I would only see it as a new adventure that was taking me somewhere I was suppose to be. Many have heard the phrase, "It is the journey that matters not the destination"...right? As Maxwell Maltz points out "A step in the wrong direction is better than staying on one spot all of our life. Once you're moving forward you can correct your course as you go. Your automatic guidance system cannot guide you when you're standing still."

We are evolving species by nature, evolving is something we have been doing for millions and billions of years. Evolving will never end unless this earth palace is taken away from us and we are no longer human beings on the journey of life. But, then again we don't know what is beyond this time and place and what is on the other-side of the light? More of something we can't see or possibly cannot grasp in this body suit? In my experience the Universe, God has pulled the rug out from underneath me when I have gone complacent in my life. As I have talked about this before, complacency is a slow death to the soul and when we feel lost in our life's I wonder if this is God's way of shifting and changing up the scenery so we can feel alive with energy moving through us.

Think about this: When you are feeling lost in your life and do not know which way you should go next do you not feel adrenaline moving through your body? Your heart beats harder; you might begin to sweat a little? It is almost like fight or flight and you go into primal mode and dive down deep within yourself and find the warrior and survivor within you. When you do finally get back on course and find the path, which is your next destination you then realize you’re awake and alive with life moving through you and all around you!

Feeling lost to me is only a great invitation to find the warrior survivor within me. I embrace it, I walk towards it and I breath deeply into it and know, that I know, that I know.

In Divine Timing,
Richard Seaman]]>Sat, 21 Nov 2009 08:47:43 -0800http://www.richardseamanonline.com/1/post/2009/11/embracing-your-duality-the-blog.htmldu-al-i-ty (noun) 1. something consisting of two parts - a situation or nature that has two states or parts that are complementary or opposed to each other.

Have you ever heard the phrase, "Angel on one shoulders and the devil on the other?" I have been sitting with this concept for many reasons lately. One reason is because of different situations, which have come up in my own life, and the other reason is because of many clients and students who have honestly shared their own dualities of their lives. What I have come to realize is that we all have duality's we carry within us. The good and the bad, the peaceful and the angry, the happy and the sad, the in control and out of control, the aware and the unaware, the light and the dark, the confident and the unconfident, the rich mentality and the poor mentality, the balanced and the unbalanced, the mature and the immature, the openness and the closed off, the brave and the scared, the passive and the aggressive, the stable and the unstable, the creative and the uncreative, the believer and the non-believer, the deserving and the undeserving. This list could never stop and I am sure you could create a new list for yourself.

A client came in recently to do a session with me. I asked her what she would like to work on today. She replied with, "I am not where I am suppose to be in my life, sometimes I feel enlightened and sometimes I feel like a total F@*#ing mess", I should be further along in my process of enlightenment than I am. Some days I feel like I am really on my path of self awareness, moving forward in a positive direction and then all the sudden I find myself off path and going in a whole other different directions - it is like I am on a positive path and then before I know it I am on a negative path and I am sick and tried of the roller coaster! When is this going to stop so I can always be in a state of awareness and high enlightenment?"

I have to be honest and tell you I started laughing out loud - clarifying to the client I am not laughing at you but with you. I asked the client if she believes we ever reach total awareness and enlightenment in our lives? She replied with, "We'll, Yes of course we do, isn't that what we are all striving to do"? Is it, I replied?

As Ram Dass describes in his book, "Still Here" - he talks about the Ego versus the Soul. He says the soul needs the egos lessons to learn and reach Heaven or enter into union with the Divine - a union of far more spacious context. How I interpret this is simply if we do not know what dark is we will never understand light, if we do not know what hot is we will never understand cold, if we do not know what fear is we will never understand peace. Or, how do we describe cobalt blue if we have never seen it? It is not actually blue or purple but a mixture of both- sort of…it is just cobalt and until you see it you really can't describe it.

If our soul needs the lessons of the ego, which I see as the duality of everyone’s personalities then why do we continue to always try to remove, destroy and eliminate this part of us which can be our greatest teacher within us? Isn't the key in this to embrace the duality's within us… see them - expose them - understand them and then manage them as great wise teacher who come to us to teach us our greatness lesson of life? I do not believe we ever become fully enlighten beings as long as we are living this human experience. This is what life is about - learning and realizing we are still here because we have lessons to learn and to teach others. "I believe we teach what we need to learn the most" and when we are done learning the lesson of duality and ego we will be transported to another level of existence.

Any thoughts?

In Divine Timing -
Richard Seaman]]>Wed, 08 Jul 2009 00:00:00 -0800http://www.richardseamanonline.com/1/post/2009/07/the-power-of-forgiveness-the-blog.htmlIsn't it funny how relieving it can be when we let go and forgive. It is like a 1000 pound weight is lifted off our chest and we can breath again. For most of us we didn't realize how much pressure there was until we let it go because it was all we knew.

I was working with a client recently who had never done any sort of work such as Life Coaching, Polarity, Hypno, ect. As I began to ask him questions about his life I realized he had so much pinned up unforgiveness within him. He told me when he was 10 years old his Mother and father were killed by a drunk driver. His life become a nightmare in a blink of an eye. The story he told only became more profound for me because at 10 years old the only stability he knew was ripped out from underneath him. He was put into a foster home where his life only became a nightmare, because he began to get molested nightly by another young man in the home. His voice was taken away and he just began to submit to the nightly abuse because he felt he had to. He told me he thought God was punishing him because he had horrible thoughts of one day finding the man who killed his mother and father in the accident and killing him. He only knew one thing - Revenge.

Throughout the next few years of his life he continued to hold on to the thought of hurting this man who killed his family. He ran away from every home he was put into and eventually started to live on the street. He found out that a way to numb his pain was through drugs and they way he would get the drugs was to sell his body on a street corner to any man or women who would pain for it. His "fix" was heroin and it cost him $30.00 - so that was his price to anyone who would pay for it. He spent 20 years of his life living this existence - sharing with me all the horrible things he experienced and witnessed. He became HIV+ at the age of 16 and also carries hep C in his liver.

I asked him whom he had told in his life about his life and about his thoughts of wanting to kill the man who accidentally killed his parents? He said, "No, one until now" I was so blown away at this moment because I realized he had been holding on to this anger, hatred, resistant, pain, victimness since he was 10 years old. These things were like a horrible cancer eating him up from the inside and then manifesting out into his life in horrible, painful, self-sacrificing ways.

I asked him to just spill out everything, which was on his mind. The list started and continued to grow longer and longer. I was trying to write down everything he was telling me and my hand could not write fast enough. It was like the door to Pandora's box was opened and what came out was unbelievable dark, negative and all about stealing his power. I felt like a tornado had just spun around in the room and then all the sudden he became quiet and spoke out to me, "Oh my God, I can't believe the things I have been holding onto. I can't believe all of those things were inside of me and that I have never talked to anyone about this. I have been living this way for so many years and all the sudden by me just speaking out these things it feels like a 1000 pound weight has been lifted of my chest." At this moment I noticed there was a new expression on his face, which I had never seen before. It was like a light bulb had went off in his mind. I asked him, "What?" He said, "I have to let go of my hatred for this man because not only did he kill my parents but I am now allowing him to kill me and all my dreams. The hatred and unforgiveness has stolen so much from me and in order for me to move on and have a life beyond the one I know I must forgive him, myself and anyone else who did me wrong and release the pain to God knowing my parents are ok." Yes, I said, Yes! I then had an image in this moment that champagne bottles were popping off in heaven and his parents and God were celebrating his new awareness and his new life of forgiveness! I believe there will be more work to be done with this young man, but what I do know is he has begun a new life, a new way, a new normal and a happier more fulfilling life full of possibility and forgiveness of others and most importantly himself.

Wow - I love the work I do. Thank you Spirit for allowing me to be the vessel I am.

In Divine Timing,
Richard Seaman]]>